As you and your man move deeper in the Femdom relationship you will discover many exciting ways of using your strapon on him. As I wrote in a Femdom Pegging 101 article “… the idea of being taken up the ass by you, a woman, is the ultimate form of humiliation and submissiveness….” It is also a super-empowering trill for the woman as she totally control the action.
According to all dominant women that I know, one of the most humiliating thing to do to your man is to take him in front of an audience. It can be a girlfriend, another sub man or a like-minded couple that you meet for some swinger’s fun and games. Ultimately it can also be at a bdsm event where the action take place in front of a larger public. In this article I will assume a private setting with just a few people present.
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Regarless of the size of the audience, here’s a few basic tips to make this one of the most exciting experience for both of you.
1- Anticipation.
While it may be fun to surprise him with a public pegging I will not recommend it for beginners.
I like to tell him a few days before the event. This way he will have to cope with the full pre-action stress of knowing what is comming at a specific time and place. Since the humiliation side is a major factor in any public demonstration of dominance it is much more effective if you have him fully aware ahead of time. It also give you a lot more control on the way he prepare himself for the event. I usually make him wear a butt plug for a full day before we meet our friends.
Unannounced pegging are best when they are the result of a spur-of-the-moment inspiration. For example; last week I had a friend for dinner and we where talking about our relationship with our men. Soon the topic of what where our favorite dildo for regular pegging was on the table. I eventually got some of my dildos and, as we where comparing size and texture, decided that it would be fun to do a product comparison test….. We ended up taking turn and “testing” four different ones….
2- Dress for the part
A public demonstration of your dominance over your submissive man is a very important statement made by both of you. In most case you should prepare for it by selecting clothes that underline your dominant role and your man should be dressed in a way that show clearly that he is there to serve and to be used.
The “dress code” that you decide to use will vary with the context and the level of confort you have in front of your guests. If your audience is compose of fellow dominants women you may decide to go with a full dominatrix outfit with your man in chains. Or you may select to have him be a buttler and you acting as the lady of the house.
3- Logistic
Make sure to have everything ready ahead of time. All the required equipment should be clean and stored in a convenient location.
Best way is to make a list and double check it a few hours before your first guest show up. Here’s a short basic list:
– strapon harness and dildo(s)
– lube
– condom (if you share the dildos)
– restrain (if you plan on using them)
– chastety device, nipples clamp, ball stretcher etc (if needed)
4- House service
As always you should keep in mind that the number one priority is your pleasure and that of your guest. Your sub may be the main dish on the menu he is still there only to serve and to be use by you. Before you break out the strapon, take the time to fully enjoy the company and make use of your man to satisfy the needs of everybody else.
That may include making him do the drinks and food service but be careful with that;
You want him to stay with you and your guests as much as possible. If you host the event for more than 3 other peoples it would be better to find someone else to do the service. My favorite is to ask one of the guest to bring another sub (man or woman) to take care of this. It is also a great way to expose a new sub to this kind of session during the early stage of his or her training.
5- A progressive action
Unless you intent to limit your sub’s public exposure to the actual pegging you should have a general plan of abuse and humiliation. All time favorites for this kind of foreplay are things like footworship and oral service on you and/or some of your guests. For the more disciplinarian type of Dom a nice spanking can also be used to set the mood.
Some devices can also be added to make your man’s humiliation something he will remember for a very long time; A butt plug can be nicely unconfortable while preparing his butt for your assault. A cock-cage or other chastity device are my personal favorite to humble my man before, and during, a public pegging. Nipples-clamps can add a kinky painful touch as another can play with them while your man is servicing you….
6- Positions
There are many positions fit for a public pegging:
The classic doggy style is always a popular one.
The reverse cowboy where you sit down and let him ride your girlcock.
The standing position that gives everyone a good view
The deep charge position where he lies flat on the floor, face down, and you squat down on him, pushing your dildo deep in the backdoor.
Performing in front of an audience can be stressful at first but the trill you will get out of it is worth it. As for your man, he will remember his first public pegging forever.
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