Like any new experience, sexual or otherwise, strapon sex will sometimes make you wonder about the safety of this form of activity.
Strap-on dildos are designed to give pleasure and, when used properly, are totally safe for you and your lover.
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You will very likely ask yourself; “Since I can not really feel the dildo, the way a man would a real penis, could I accidentally hurt my partner?” This is by far the biggest concern about strapon play. The risk is quite real but it is easily resolved with a few simple precautions:
– Start small. If you or your partner are new at this do not rush into trying one of the larger toys available. A big dildo is way more difficult to control and can be painful on the receiving end. A smaller one will also give you a chance to familiarize yourself with the sensations of having this new extension to your body.
– Get used to your new “cock” before trying to use it on your lover. Take the time to adjust the harness and make sure your dildo is properly installed. Then spend some time walking around the house while wearing it. Become accustomed to the weight and feel of the strapon. Touch it, play with it and get used to the way it moves and reacts to your body position. The more comfortable you are in your harness, the better control you will have on your dildo and this is the best way to insure a safe and enjoyable experience for both yourself and your lover.
– Make sure that your harness is securely in place and as close to your body as possible to insure that you have total control over the dildo.
– Use plenty of lube, specially for anal penetration. While it can get a little messy, there is no such a thing as “too much lube”, especially during the first few times. My rule-of-thumb about lube is simple… “when in doubt…. add more”. Eventually, once you and your loved one get more experienced, you will find the proper type and amount of lube to use for the most exciting and stimulating penetration.
(lube type can also be dictated by the material of the dildo. Silicone lube should never be used on Silicone toys as it will quite literally melt them)
– Talk to your partner. Communication before, during and after a strapon session is an absolute must to make sure that you are doing it right. Be ready to stop at a moment’s notice, but also to increase the pace if your lover asks for it. Most importantly, be aware of your lover’s body language and talk with one another. Get to know what feels good for both of you. Ask him if he wants you to go faster, slower, deeper. Does the dildo need more lubrication?
– Take your time, start slowly and increase the pace gradually; strapon sex is not a race. One of the great quality of a dildo is that it never goes soft. Many men would kill to get the type of perpetual hard-on that allows you to “service” your lover for a very long time.
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