Selecting the right tools for a great first pegging!
What you need for a good pegging session:
This article will give you a good overview of the first critical steps to realise yours, or your man’s, fantasy of strapon anal sex (pegging).
As with many things in life, prepartion and planning will make a huge difference. The very first thing that you should do is to make sure that you have all the needed tools.
Here’s a list of what could be considered the bare minimum for a successful strapon play:
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1- Lube;
Pegging as any kind of anal penetration should always be done with a generous amount of lube. The anus does not produce any secretion therefore it must be coated with some form of lubrification to ease the movement as well as to prevent bruises from the friction of the toy. The best kind of lube is a water based one since it would be compatible with all type of toy material.
Warning: In a understanable but ill-advice desire of reducing to a minimum the use of chemicals, some peoples may be tempted to turn to food products for lubrification. Popular choices are; shortning, butter and vegetable oil. While all those products would indeed work as lube they can also cause serious damage to your health because of all their biological components. So unless you and your man are into some kind of food fetishes, and aware of the risk involved, you should stick with the kind of lube designed to be use for humain body penetration.
2- Opening/Widening toy;
Remember the first time that you took something up your butt. That gate is quite tight and your man’s is no different. You will need to work on it with your finger or a small toy to relax the muscle and widen the openning before going in with your strapon. A favorite way to do this is with a glove covered hand (low cost latex gloves can be found in any drug store). A small toy can also be use in a similar way. Another popular solution is to use a butt plug and to have him wear it during the foreplay before you start working on him with your girlcock.
3- The strapon;
The single most important piece of pegging equipment on the list, the strapon dildo is actually made of 2 parts; the harness and the dildo. As first timer you will probably get both in a kit but they can also be purchase separately.
The Harness:
The harness is often neglected in the selection process since most peoples are naturally more interested by the details of the dildo. This can be a big mistake. The harness is a crutial piece of equipment. Event the very best quality dildo will not give you a great experience if it is not solidly hold in place by a good harness. The harness is the anchor point for your toy and if it start rolling or moving around it can quickly ruin your experience.
There are dozen different type of harness on the marquet today. Among those, two are standing out as both the most popular and the most affordable for beginners; the string and the jock type harness. The difference are in the way the harness is secure to your body.
The String harness have a strap going around your waist, like a belt, and another that goes between your legs. The main benefit of this type of harness is the friction from the midle strap that provide a nice stimulation on your clit and vulva.
The Jock type harness use three straps; one around the waist and two around the calves. It will not provide any ongoing stimulation but will allow full acess to your vagina and ass to your partner. This type of harness is generally considered the one providing the most stable platform for the dildo. Most hight end harness are based on variations of this type of design.
Once you are done experimenting and decide to make pegging a part of your regular sex diet you will have a better understanding of the mechanic involve and be in a better position to select the very best harness for you.
The harness also include the mechanism to hold the dildo in place. The vast majority of harness use a O ring system but some of the best products (like the ones made by the Doc Johnson brand) are equiped with a system called Vaculock that use a special peg to hold the dildo in place. Once you have selected your harness be carefull to choose a dildo that is compatible with it.
Hint: On most websites when a dildo is labelled as “harness compatible” it usually refer to the O ring system.
The Dildo or Dong
Anyone who has ever visited a sex shop or browse a sextoy website know that dildos come in an almost infinite variety of sizes, shapes, materials and colors. But not all dildo will work in a stapon harness. For a first experience you have to choose wisely. Heres a few things to look for:
Dildo Shape:
For a first experience it is better to select a dildo with a very smooth surface texture. This will make penetration much easier. With O ring harness, a very important feature to look for is a wide base to prevent any accidental burrying of the toy that may result in a shameful visit to the emergency room.
Dildo Size:
Contrary to what you may have seen in porn; bigger is not better for a first strapon experience. Even if you and your man are into a Femdom relationship (where a certain amount of pain is part of the arousal process) you still want to start small and work your way up. A small dildo will both be easier for him to receive and for you to handle. Many women, when shopping for a first strapon, forget that they will have to wear it and manoeuver it in action. Trust me when I say that a strapon is anything but a natural feel when you use it for the first time.
A good size for a first experience would be something around 6-7 inches long with a diameter of between 1-1.5 inches.
Dildo Material:
Stay away from the hard material for a first dildo. Glass, Steel, Wood, hard plastic ect sometime make very good toys but they are the most difficult to handle safely in a harness.
The best choice for beginner are the silicone ones, they are smooth in texture and the easiest one to keep clean and germ free. Rubber/Latex/Jelly/PVC are also fine as long as you treat them carefully when cleaning and storing. (See here for the best way to clean your sex toys)
Vibrating or not ?
Many “harness compatible” toys are vibrators and you will be surprise to see that they are usually cheaper than the non-vibrating ones. STAY AWAY from those! Most are made of low quality plastic and are nothing but bargain price vibe with a cheap plastic strap glued to them. There are a few good quality vibrating strapon dildo but they are in the upper price range and I would feel guilty to recommend them to beginners that are still exploring.
The good news is that most jock type harness (the one I recommend for beginner) have a convenient pocket to hold a vibrating egg or bullet right over your clit so you can get all those nice vibrations whitout the cheap plastic…..
Hint: If you got yourself a harness with a vibe bullet include in the kit (like the Tantus beginner kit) I strongly recommend that you leave it off for your first few pegging. While the vibe feature is a nice stimulating one, you dont really need it for the first few time and you certainly will not need the distration of operating it while you will be figuring out the main action. You can add that later when you feel confortable with the basic stuff.
Decision, Decision, Decision
OK, now that I got you totally confuse with all those informations let me give you a hand in making that agonising decision; What are the product that I would recommend for a first pegging of your man:
Two great beginner’s set:
For the very cheapest price but with a good quality product I recommend the Sophia’s Red Rider.
The long PVC Dildo is perfectly shape for a great first experience and for many repeat…
For the best quality in a beginner’s kit the undisputable choice is the Tantus bend over beginners kit. It comes with 2 size of dildos and a vibrating bullet.
Both strapon kit will give you a great first experience. The harness are of good quality and can be used with the other toys that you may buy latter on. Both are using a O-Ring system on jock type harness.
The Tantus set include 2 dildos if you want to start very slowly in your probing. The red rider include a single dildo that is about the size of the largest one in the Tantus kit.
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